“Relation-sinking-Ship”

Hi Family,

I’m sure most of you have heard the news. Al and Tipper Gore are calling it quits after a 40 year marriage. Now I know some of you are saying, “Who gives a damned, I don’t even have a job”. Well I could understand that sentiment to a certain degree considering the way things are going in this U.S. economy and globally around the world. What I can’t understand sometimes is what even makes a story like this news worthy. Or in my case blog worthy. People break up all the time in relationships. So what makes the case of Al and Tipper so special ? For one, 40 years is a long time to be smelling someone else’s morning breath. Secondly, Al and Tipper Gore not only epitomize the American dream but represent the picture of what we all hope and live for, a solid family foundation.

Most of what we enjoy in the world today is the result of having a solid family structure. If we take a look back in history, family was the only thing that kept people going. What could be better after working long hours for barely a decent wage then sitting at the table with the family. Families were able to see the value in each other, but my God how things have changed. You’re lucky today if you can even get the family together at one table to have a meal. Everybody is so busy trying to play important with their blackberries. What about the language we hear coming out the mouths of some of the couples today. They’re in the supermarket, the movies, out in the street talking to each other with no respect at all. Most couples can’t even last a year without punching each other in the face or some other form of major drama. So what the hell happen? Have the men and women of today lost all respect for each other?

I would like to blame Oprah for all of this but I wouldn’t dare do that, not with her money. So what happen? Is this the result of the women making more money than the men ? Is this the reason why there is so much conflict in todays relationships? Or excuse me, “Relation-sinking-Ships”. Oh what is that? That’s what Al and Tipper just had. Forty f_ _ kin years down the drain. Oh, the dinner parties, the kids birthdays, sex all over the house. All that energy wasted. Nothing to show for it because they didn’t complete the vow that they originally took in the name of God. God is really upset right now. He saying what’s up with you Al? I almost made you the President of the United States, but I forgot I created George Bush too. What’s up with you Tipper? What, this man wasn’t good enough? I put him on the board of Apple and Goggle. You don’t have to worry about the money he has alot more than Poppastep. Why are we failing in our relationships? Why are most of us in a “Relation-sinking-Ship”.

Well I think in most cases the relationships are doomed from the very start. I can use my own life experience as a perfect example. Fourteen years of marriage right down the drain. In all honesty, I can’t say that my ex-wife wasn’t a good women. She definitely did alot of good and helped mold me into the man I am today. Yes we had plenty of wonderful times together and she gave birth to my oldest daughter whom I am very proud of. Unfortunately I was never in a relationship. I was in a “Relation-sinking-Ship”. I received a wake-up signal early on but was too mesmerized by my ex-wife’s chest and butt to see it. I’ll never forget the day my sisters woke me up from bed. This was before I actually got married. They said,” Don’t get upset but come outside”. I get out of bed and go outside and see yellow paint on my car and sugar in my tank. Please ladies don’t read this and get any bright ideas, some of you are really grinning right now. I won’t tell you what I did but the point is that this is a woman I shouldn’t have married. The physical attraction super-ceded everything else. This is a problem most men have until they mature, being so overly attracted to the physical. Lets face it women have that problem too. Don’t let that man have some chest and arms and a big d_ _ k, what! Women will forget everything they learned in the church service. Yes that physical attraction can most often be the prelude to our “Relation-sinking-Ship”.

I’m sure most of us can remember the lyrics to that soul classic from the “Stylistics”. “Break up to Make Up, that’s all we do”. “First you love me than you hate me that’s a game for fools”. Why is a lyric that is over 30 years old so relevant today? Is it our approach from the very beginning? Oh he looks good, has a house, good job and a nice car. Did he tell you that he has three other women on the side. Did he tell you that after a few drinks he’s ready to slap you upset your head. Did he tell you that he was in bed with a few men before he met you. Did she tell you that shes been in bed with half the neighborhood now she’s ready to settle down and marry you. Could the problem be we’re just not asking enough questions? Where is the communication? The very foundation of any relationship. Well I would like to ask my readers,what do you have? Did your birthday just pass and you didn’t even get a card. Have you been together 20 years and never had breakfast in bed. Is he or she hanging out all night at the club coming home drunk? Was you able to find the cell phone that’s being hidden in the trunk of the car (sorry guys)? Maybe it’s time to do a check list. You could be suffering from the illusion of a relationship but really be in a “Relation-sinking-Ship.